Date: Thursday, July 21 1994
Place: Burbank Hilton
Event: LAMG’s monthly meeting, featuring Adobe FrameMaker
After the events in Part 2, Tom and I exchanged a few emails.
For reasons relating to the messy disintegration of my marriage, I had ended up with duplicates of almost everything a household could need: two beds, two couches, two kitchen tables, two sets of kitchen equipment, etc.
I realized that my superfluity could solve Tom’s problem of having none of these things, so I sent him an email offering him his choice of whatever he needed. He wrote back, gratefully accepting the kitchen equipment, and ended the email saying he owed me a hug.
As LAMG’s VP in charge of meetings, Tom was the organizer and stage manager of the monthly events, and July 1994′s Adobe FrameMaker meeting started off as no exception. Early on, though, he left the backstage area, found me in the audience, and said we should talk outside. We wandered around the Hilton and ended up by the pool, where we continued our talk from Sunday. We talked more about our lives, and he thanked me profusely for the offer of stuff.
After we’d chatted for a little while, he said he needed to get back, and as we stood I reminded him he owed me a hug. He was happy to deliver.
There are awkward hugs and one-sided hugs and hugs where you just don’t mesh together. This one wasn’t any of those things; it turned out that we were a perfect fit.
Given that the hug felt so good, I tilted my head back to look at Tom and found him looking down at me.
Cue the first kiss music
I thought we’d felt good hugging; kissing each other turned out to be a discovery of an entirely new level of right.
I never did end up learning anything about FrameMaker, and we missed the entire presentation.
That night wasn’t our first date (that was a week later), but we still count that night twenty years ago as the start of our relationship. Tonight, we’re going to a fabulous restaurant, where we’ll toast the past and look forward to the future.